Baby Y started preschool!
Sending kids to preschool is a very arguable topic and I certainly got my share of judging stares when I admitted baby Y to preschool.
I faced many questions when I decided in the favor of preschooling and went ahead with baby Y’s preschool admission.
Every parent who decides in the favor of preschooling are asked questions like: Isn’t he too young to start preschool? “You are a SAHM!! Can’t you spend some time with him instead of sending him to school?”
And sometimes they skip the questions part and jump directly to accusations like “Aaj kal ke maa baap ko to bas bachhe ko dhaklna hai school me,” “He is not even able to speak, why did you send him to school?” “Why spend so much money on this age group when they only do activities and let them play in preschool, you can do it at home too!” and the likes.
First and foremost, it was my and only my decision to start preschool for baby Y. Every parent has the right to decide what’s good for their babies.
I kept baby Y involved in quite many stimulating activities since he was 6 months old.
Initially, I was scared to send him to school for 2.5 hours every day without me. But the way he showed interest in the trial days gave me a boost and I decided to send him to preschool.
It has often joked that parents are far more likely to cry on the first day of school than their children. It is a big milestone, actually.
It is something close to my heart, with baby Y who was about to start a new journey of his life.
To say I am feeling a bit emotional about this next chapter would be an understatement.
The first day ever that he went without me left me in a complete “awww”
I was out of words when he went to school yesterday without me the first time.
He went to his classroom from the main gate… turned around, saw me still standing, came running to me, hugged me, and said: “love you, MAA.” Kissed me on the forehead and said “Mumma jaao, I am ok” with a wide smile.
And I was standing still there in tears of joy still trying to figure out where did the time fly.
Certain things I came across as a parent who recently started sending a kid to preschool are:
- I missed his presence for those 2.5 hours. I literally missed him.
- I somehow felt my bond with baby Y got stronger since he started going to preschool.
- This was intimidating for both me and baby Y.
- He did not have his lunch for some good long time. Reason being that the people and the atmosphere there is too new to be comfortable for him to have food there (maybe).
- He isn’t too social with his classmates. (Maybe he is taking his own sweet little time to get gelled in that atmosphere)
- Kids are very unpredictable. So I have to be prepared for being bullied at too. (By this I don’t mean his classmates bully him but I mean, you never know how kids behave.)
- I make sure he never ever gets rude to anyone.
- Teachers can’t be as good as you are with them.
- They seek personal attention.
- He isn’t learning fast enough. (I am good with it.. he is just 23 months old, he has his whole life to learn and understand, I just want him to step out of the home and learn about new things in life.)
Just one suggestion for moms whose kids started preschool:
- Stop feeling bad about feeling bad. Stop having mom guilt, stop questioning your decision! That’s only going to make things worse. You are not alone, all the parents feel the same.
- Don’t let your kid sense this because if they did then adjusting in the school would get worse for them.
If they cry or feel bad for a few days, that’s ok too.