Personal Journal Entry No 3
We recently moved to a new city and helping baby Y getting used to the city, environment and new community was a task! The moves are definitely difficult for the entire family but for children it’s more difficult.
They definitely seem to be flexible, but actually they have to make many many adjustments and changes in lifestyle and what not.
There are many changes that they observe, they don’t necessarily make us feel the thoughts they have, but they are affected.
Baby Y faced the loss of belongings, he missed his home, how it was maintained, his society friends, his ground and what not!
In such case I made sure to divert his mind on positive things as much as possible.
I always gave him a space and a secure atmosphere where he can discuss what he feels without any hesitation
What aspects and things made this work for me might not work for all of you.. but I feel it definitely can give you an idea:
1. Let the kids be as expressive aboufnit!
- Acknowledge the child’s point of view on the decision of moving!
- Make sure to talk to them more often.
- Inform them well in advance about the move!
- Give them time to spend with his family before moving!
- Be open when they share their part of street on moving (no matter it could be as small as leaving their friends and fav spots in the city back.. but that is a big deal for them!)
2. A visit to the city before actually moving!
- Make sure to visit the city with kid once and take him to a few amazing places that he would love so that he gets a really good impression about the city already!
3. Show excitement about the move!
- Don’t let your stress show on your face In front of the kids.
- Always show the excitement so that they understand that the change is going to be a happier one!
4. Making sure that that this move is a good family event!
- If it’s planned as a family event, with support and time you give each other and understanding that you share, it would give you more of a family time and would make you closer as a fily.. it would make him feel warm and love the change that’s happening!
5. Keep talking to him about the changes you are facing after the move (the good ones)!
- Once the Move is done, make sure to point all the goods and positives and show it to the kids, so that they start liking and adjusting to the atmosphere even before they actually get to understand the difficulties!
Not all the moves are bad. Just the situations and our thoughts make them how they seem to be!
Take the changes with smile always.. and all is definitely going to be great!